Every parent knows how frustrating it can be when their child just won’t listen. Whether you’re asking them to put on their shoes, clean their room, or stop roughhousing with a sibling, it can sometimes feel like your words go in one ear and out the other.
The good news? Listening is a skill—and like any skill, it can be taught, practised, and improved. Here are five proven ways to help your child become a better listener, along with one powerful activity that reinforces all of them: martial arts.
1. Get Their Attention First
Before giving instructions, be sure your child is actually paying attention. That might mean calling their name, touching their shoulder, or making eye contact. Trying to communicate while they’re focused on a screen or toy almost guarantees you’ll be ignored. A calm, respectful “connection moment” makes all the difference.
2. Keep Instructions Clear and Simple
Children don’t respond well to long-winded or overly complex directions. Instead of saying, “You need to get ready or we’re going to be late and you won’t have time to eat,” try, “Please get your shoes on now.” Short, direct, and kind works best.
3. Be the Listener You Want Them to Be
Children model what they see. If you interrupt them or only half-listen when they speak, they’ll do the same. Practice active listening: stop what you’re doing, look them in the eyes, and show genuine interest. It teaches them that listening is about respect and attention.
4. Set Clear Expectations and Be Consistent
If your child doesn’t listen, explain the consequence calmly and stick to it. “If you don’t tidy your toys now, there won’t be time for your game before bed.” Following through is essential. It teaches your child that listening matters—and that you mean what you say.
5. Praise Good Listening
When your child does listen well, make a big deal out of it. “Thanks for following instructions right away,” or “I loved how you looked at me while I was talking.” This positive reinforcement encourages them to keep it up.
Bonus: Martial Arts Builds Listening Muscles
At Okami Kai Martial Arts and Fitness, we see incredible improvements in our students’ listening skills. Martial arts classes are structured, respectful environments where kids learn to follow directions, wait their turn, and focus on both verbal and non-verbal instruction.
Listening isn’t just expected—it’s essential for success in martial arts. And because we teach through repetition, discipline, and encouragement, students build these habits naturally over time. The result? Children who are more attentive, respectful, and confident—not just on the mats, but at home and at school too.
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